Who are neurotics in psychology: definition, symptoms, characteristic features of a neurotic personality

Mental disorder or normal defensive reaction from the outside world? In the article I will talk about a neurotic and describe who he is in psychology, what symptoms and signs appear in an individual.

Why is it important to understand what character you and the people around you have? Because the style of behavior depends on this, reactions to specific situations and words may change. Perhaps you are offended by harshness or excessive feelings, while such a manifestation of feelings and emotions is characteristic of a person and cannot even be corrected. Read the article and find yourself and the people around you in the description.

Who is a neurotic

These are mature, developed individuals suffering from neuroses. They have subtle psychological deviations - they do not adapt well to reality and are more focused on their own emotional level than on rational decisions.

A characteristic feature is that they constantly experience doubts and, as a result, need support and consent from loved ones and colleagues. But often they try to make an effort to prove to themselves the possibility of leadership. So a neurotic is a person who can become a leader, but not because of his own convictions, but to prove his ability to lead a crowd and dominate others.

Another common emotional neurotic reaction is refusal of everyday household activities and communication. In essence, this is a chosen hermitage with contempt for all the benefits of civilization. This is due to the fact that this psychotype often does not recognize the rules established in society. But not all people who reject standards have a psychological deviation; sometimes this is a conscious choice.

Character traits:

• Poor health and condition: at the same time, others do not experience discomfort when they are nearby, which cannot be said about psychopaths, who in the opposite situation have an influence on others.
• Psycho-emotional instability. These are jumps in emotions and moods. But over time and growing up, such a person turns into stable pessimism. At the same time, it is rare and difficult for a neurotic to emerge from a negative state.
• Lack of confidence in one’s own endeavors and capabilities.
• Fears and mistrust - often stem from negative experiences with people or due to far-fetched experiences.
• Self-flagellation or the opposite extreme - blaming others for any problems, lack of balance.
• Egocentrism.

One is not born neurotic, one becomes one. Basically, the formation of such a personality, like any other, occurs from childhood, when the basic manners of behavior are laid down. Then each communication experience (in personal life or professional) can aggravate the condition. With age, especially when old age sets in, such people often lose control of themselves and go to extremes; it is very difficult to communicate with them. While in youth and adulthood they often mask their experiences and doubts, adapting to the norms and rules of society.

Aggressive

This type of neurotic, in contrast to the subordinate who makes a “movement towards people,” has the belief that “man is a wolf to man.” Such an attitude is sometimes immediately visible, and sometimes hidden behind a mask of camaraderie, goodwill and politeness.

With a neurotic personality organization of an aggressive type, a person looks at his interlocutor and mentally tries to understand how much stronger he is as an opponent or how he can be useful. The main need of such patients is to have dominance over others. They consider the world around them to be an arena where the struggle for survival takes place, and the strongest wins. An aggressive neurotic personality calls such reasoning realism, and they will not listen to arguments proving the opposite. However, there is one caveat. The fact is that a neurotic who belongs to the aggressive type is just as one-sided as one who belongs to subordinates. The only difference lies in their polarity.

An aggressive neurotic has a need to gain approval, achieve success, recognition and prestige. At the same time, he is very surprised by the fact that even after achieving his goal, he still does not get a feeling of confidence and security. This is explained by the fact that the basis of a neurotic’s needs is basic anxiety, as well as fear. And if the subordinate type does not consider such feelings as shortcomings, then the opposite is true. An aggressive neurotic does not want to admit his fear. Moreover, he is ashamed of him. Such feelings lead to the repression of existing fear, which makes it impossible to realize and detect it.

Neurotics of the aggressive type always strive to show themselves in terms of dominance and strength. The forms of such manifestations are different and depend on the natural abilities of such a person. Sometimes they represent a direct use of force, and with a tendency to isolate such dominance, an aggressive neurotic will avoid.

The main direction of such a person’s life is the orientation towards survival, success, and also towards the subjugation of others. It is distinguished by the existing need to deceive, exploit and use. The main question he constantly asks himself is: “What can I get from this?”

In a relationship, it is very important for such a person to have a friend or partner who can strengthen his social position with his success, connections, money or beauty. Love always remains in the background for him

Other people don't bother him much.

If the subordinate type of neurotic personality does not tolerate winnings well, then the aggressive type does not tolerate losses. After all, such a person will not stand up to the price to achieve victory. Considering himself a good fighter, he easily enters into battle, competition and argument. At the same time, he is a good strategist. An aggressive neurotic is able to accurately calculate the weaknesses that his opponents have, as well as assess his own capabilities and avoid any pitfalls

Due to the fact that it is very important for him to be the strongest, luckiest and most successful, he constantly develops such qualities as intelligence and efficiency

This person's intelligence and energy often lead to success in business and at work. However, his activity is devoid of feelings. He does not enjoy his work. On the one hand, this allows him to be as functional as possible, but on the other hand, it becomes the cause of emotional infertility, introducing an ever-decreasing degree of creativity into his affairs.

A neurotic of an aggressive type represses such human feelings as kindness, love and compassion. This is his main problem. After all, the main conflict that arises in it concerns the opposition between the attitude that everyone around is a potential enemy, as well as feelings of love and sympathy for others.

Symptoms

Neuroticism is a personality trait, not a psychological illness, so it cannot be said to have symptoms in the medical sense. If these signs appear in a mild form, that is, accompanied by some internal discomfort and external calm, one cannot speak of a disease. It was just that a certain situation brought him out of his emotional balance.

But neurosis in severe form is already a reason to worry, since it is a disease that leads to both psychological and physical manifestations.

Even if you or your loved ones only have the first type of neuroticism, it is worth knowing the symptoms that may indicate a more serious stage:

• Studying poorly at school and university.
• It is difficult to start something new, or rather, to stop the old one. Changes are very frightening, therefore, with neuroticism, a person does not leave his unloved job or his significant other for a long time, even if he knows the need for this.
• Problems in the intimate sphere: there is no trust between lovers, so it is difficult to open up and enjoy the process.
• Feeling dizzy and experiencing pain in the temporal region.
• A person is constantly looking for diseases - this is a concern for one’s own physical and psychological health, which is unfounded.
• There are constant fears: that he will be late somewhere, that he will miss something or forget, that he will not turn off the kettle, iron, gas, or turn off the water.
• Pressure surges.
• Fatigue. Often after sleep, a neurotic does not feel well-rested.
• Increased irritability to sounds (ticking clocks) and light - blinking indicator light on a monitor or TV.
• The desire to be alone with yourself.
• Many signs of self-doubt.
• Inability to admit one's own guilt or mistakes.

Constant fear, like other symptoms, manifests itself to varying degrees in different people. It mainly depends on the strength of the individual. Strong people try to overcome fears and not show them. While the weak express them constantly. For this reason, neurotik often tries to attract attention, talks about his exaggerated troubles, fictitious diseases, and wants to be pitied. He doesn’t like to listen, but he himself is happy to talk about problems.

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Character traits

I compiled a psychological portrait of a neurotic, and also gave several examples. Of course, any similarities with real persons are purely coincidental.

A neurasthenic person with a progressive disorder depends on what the people around him say. He is not stable - his mood can fluctuate for no apparent reason. He is more likely to notice bad events, so he often gets caught up in depressive thoughts. At such moments he does not always want to communicate or begins to tell how he suffers due to a lot of diseases and problems in life. In addition, it is different:

• uncertainty;
• attacks of fear;
• suspiciousness;
• mistrust.

They are very afraid of making mistakes, so they project possible failures in advance, blaming themselves and others for them. In personal relationships, he is very difficult because he does not accept criticism and considers every quarrel to be a manifestation of betrayal. From a neurotic lover, you can expect fits of rage, as well as causeless jealousy. You are also able to encounter pronounced egocentrism, that is, the need for constant communication and being together, even if the other member of the relationship wants to be alone.

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I will give examples of who neurotics are and show the characteristic features of a neurotic personality:

• A very attractive girl constantly finds flaws in herself and believes that any manifestations of interest shown are insincere ridicule or manipulation in order to gain benefit or take advantage of a weakness.
• An adult man with experience working in one place is constantly in fear that today he will make a mistake, break the machine, or get hurt. Despite extensive experience and a lot of commendable certificates.
• An office clerk who hates his job. He is afraid to quit because he believes that he will not find a better place. Constant dissatisfaction manifests itself in passive aggression.

How to get rid of a neurotic disorder

The neurotic personality type requires attention, he wants love, but believes that it can only be obtained through pity. He tries to prove his own importance by raising his self-esteem. It is important for him to attract attention. He is easily hurt, he always considers himself defenseless.

A neurotic must prove to himself that he is satisfied with himself, life, and profession. Therefore, it is important to do what you love and improve. This is the only way to increase self-esteem. You need to do this for yourself, not for others.

Note! When a person likes what he does, he grows and develops, begins to value himself, and a thirst to live appears. This is how self-esteem grows and dependence on other people’s opinions disappears.

It's good when a person realizes the problem. This can only mean one thing - he is ready to change. Recognizing the fact “I am neurotic” leads to the idea of ​​how to help yourself. Accepting the disorder is the first step towards getting rid of it.

How to stop being neurotic and avoid neuroticism:

• Relax in the fresh air, away from city noise;
• Take an active life position, do not hide behind others;
• Avoid people who choose to play the victim. Communicate with positive, self-confident individuals;
• Process serious experiences that could cause psychological trauma. Emotions must be felt to the end, and what you want must be realized. Only then will the tension that leads to internal imbalance disappear. Awareness of the thought “I am neurotic, what should I do?” brings people to specialists who help them remember negative life experiences and get rid of the burden of worries.

Consultation with a psychologist

A neurotic is a psychotype who is dependent on the opinions of others. He does not value himself and sees only the negative, easily immerses himself in emotions and is capable of causing pity in anyone. A neurotic cannot be called the master of his own life. He wastes time on doubts, fears and resentments.

If you cannot increase your self-esteem on your own or get rid of suspiciousness and anxiety, it is better to seek help from a specialist. After all, a neurotic personality disorder can lead to neurosis, a more serious illness.

Types

It is interesting that, depending on temperament, characteristics of upbringing and external environment, as well as on the inner strength of the individual, everyone finds their own way to deal with anxious moods.

What does subordinate neurotic mean?

This is a person who needs the patronage and protection of a stronger person - a parent, friend, spouse. Usually she is inclined to search for someone close in spirit, but at the same time she believes that the chosen “patron” is morally stronger. Usually this is a soft personality who strives to communicate, loves to share experiences, and is self-centered.

Aggressive

He does not want to interact with people, he is used to either fighting with them or leading them. Therefore, this type often produces a leader who goes forward, does not see his own mistakes, has a complex character, and is not used to losing. But a neurotic cannot achieve success and calmly rest on his laurels - he will be afraid until the very end, he may be haunted by various fears - for the company, for life, for wealth, for safety.

This is usually achieved by setting bans on emotions, on everything except aggression. The latter can manifest itself not only when achieving goals, but also in personal relationships. External calm is always feigned; there is always a risk of breakdown.

Separated

Tries to withdraw into his own world and does not strive to maintain contact. Prefers remote work or maximum distance from management, does not have contact with customers and clients. It formalizes all relationships, even personal and family, subordinating everything to labels - you need to kiss your daughter before bed, you need to congratulate your mother by calling, it is customary to send a bouquet of flowers to your wife on her birthday - if such a relationship has been created. Typically, marriage is not the destiny of isolated, neurotic people; they prefer to remain alone.

It is interesting that as soon as a person achieves independence, he simply does not know what to do with it in the future. A person is left with himself and his problems. When he has talent, he can successfully develop it, but not show it to everyone.

Chapter 1. Cultural and psychological aspects of understanding neuroses.

Quite often in our time we use the term “neurotic”, without, however, having any clear idea of ​​what it means. It is often understood as nothing more than a slightly arrogant way of expressing disapproval: someone who previously would have been content with the words “lazy”, “vulnerable”, “overly demanding” or “suspicious” is now likely to say “neurotic”. However, we do mean something specific when we use this term, and, without fully realizing it, we rely on special criteria in choosing it. First, neurotics differ from normal individuals in their reactions. For example, we will tend to consider as neurotic a girl who prefers to remain indifferent, refuses to receive higher pay and does not strive to achieve a higher position, or an artist who earns only $30 a week and prefers to be content with little instead of working hard and striving for it. more. The reason we will call such people neurotic is that most of us are familiar only with a pattern of behavior that involves the desire to succeed in life, to get ahead of others, to earn more than the minimum necessary for a normal existence. These examples show that the criterion we use in defining a person as neurotic is whether his lifestyle coincides with any of the behavior patterns accepted in our time. If a girl without competitive drives, or at least without overtly competitive tendencies, lived in a Pueblo culture, she would be considered completely normal. Or if the artist lived in a village in the south of Italy or Mexico, he would also be considered normal, because in that environment it is unthinkable that anyone would want to earn more money or make any more effort than is necessary to satisfy his immediate needs. Let us turn to the past of Greece. There, the desire to work more than was necessary to satisfy human needs was considered indecent. Thus, the very term "neurotic", although medical in origin, cannot now be used without taking into account the cultural aspects of its meaning. You can diagnose a broken leg without knowing the patient's cultural background, but calling a Native American boy a psychopath because he says he has visions that he believes in is a huge risk. In the peculiar culture of these Indians, the ability to experience visions and hallucinations is considered a special gift, a blessing of the spirits, and the ability to evoke them is deliberately stimulated as conferring special prestige on the person who has them. In our country, a person talking to his deceased grandfather for an hour would be considered a recognized neurotic or psychopath, while such communication with ancestors is considered a recognized pattern among some Indian tribes. We would indeed consider a person to be neurotic if he felt mortally offended when the name of his deceased relative was mentioned, but he would be considered completely normal in Jicarilla Apache culture. A man who is mortally frightened by the approach of a menstruating woman will be considered neurotic by us, while for many primitive tribes fear of menstruation is a common attitude. The concept of what is normal changes not only across cultures, but also, over time, within the same culture. For example, in our time, if a mature and independent woman considered herself “superior”, “unworthy of love from a decent person” just because she had previously entered into sexual relations, others would suspect her of neurosis. About forty years ago, such feelings of guilt would have been considered normal. The idea of ​​the norm also varies among different classes of society. For example, representatives of the feudal class consider it normal for a person of their circle to indulge in rest all the time, being active only during hunting or military operations, while a representative of the petty bourgeois class who displays the same attitude will definitely be considered abnormal. Such variation also occurs due to gender differences as they exist in society, as is the case in Western culture, where men and women are believed to have different temperaments. It is “normal” for a forty-year-old woman to be overly concerned and afraid of approaching old age, while a man in a similar situation would be considered neurotic. Every educated person understands that there are variations within the boundaries of what is considered normal. We know that the Chinese eat food different from ours; that the Eskimos have different ideas about cleanliness than we do; that a healer does not have the same methods of treating a patient as a modern doctor. However, the differences affect not only customs, but also motives and feelings, often understood to a lesser extent, although this has been reported explicitly or implicitly by anthropologists. One of the virtues of modern anthropology, as Sapir said, is that it constantly rediscovers the idea of ​​the normal, the standard pattern. For essential reasons, every culture holds to the belief that its inherent feelings and drives are the only normal expression of “human nature,” and psychology is no exception to this rule. Freud, for example, concludes from his observations that women are more jealous than men, and then tries to explain this apparently general phenomenon on biological grounds. Freud also seems to have accepted that all people experience feelings of guilt associated with murder (“Totem and Taboo”). What is undeniable, however, is that there are huge differences in attitudes towards murder. As Peter Freuchen has shown, Eskimos do not believe that a murderer deserves to be punished. In many primitive tribes there is a custom: in order to appease a mother who has lost her son, one of the killer’s relatives takes the place of the murdered person in the family. Using more deeply the discoveries of anthropologists, we have to admit that some of our ideas about human nature are rather naive, for example the idea that competition, childhood rivalry in the family, the kinship between affection and sexuality are phenomena inherent in human nature. We arrive at our ideas of normality through the endorsement of certain standards of behavior and feelings within certain groups, which impose these standards on their members. But standards vary depending on culture, era, class and gender... Part of moving along this path means following the path that ultimately led Freud to an understanding of neuroses that was previously unthinkable. Although in theory Freud traces the deep connections of our characteristics with biologically determined drives, he persistently emphasizes - in theory, and even more in practice - that we cannot understand neurosis without a detailed knowledge of the circumstances of the individual's life, especially the formative attachments in early childhood. influence... We have already seen that neurosis presupposes deviation from the norm. This criterion is very important, although not sufficient. People can deviate from the general pattern without suffering from neurosis. The artist mentioned above, who refused to spend time earning more than the amount of money needed to live, may have had a neurosis, or perhaps he had enough wisdom not to be like others caught up in the daily race, competition and struggle . On the other hand, many people who, according to superficial observation, have adapted to existing patterns of life, may have severe neurosis. It is in such cases that psychological or medical analysis is necessary. It is quite curious that from this point of view it is extremely difficult to say what constitutes a neurosis. In any case, as long as we study only the picture of manifestations, it is difficult to find signs common to all neuroses. We definitely cannot use symptoms such as phobias, depression, functional somatic disorders as criteria because they may not be present. There are always some types of internal inhibitions (the reasons for which I will discuss later), but they can be so subtle or so well hidden that they will elude superficial observation. The same difficulties arise if we judge other people's disorders, including disorders in sexual relationships, based on their expressions alone. They always occur, but they can be very difficult to recognize. However, they have two characteristics that can be found in all neuroses without a deep study of the personality structure: a certain rigidity of reaction and a gap between a person’s capabilities and their implementation. Both of these signs require additional explanation. By response rigidity I mean the lack of that flexibility that allows us to respond in different ways to different situations. For example, a normal person becomes suspicious when he feels or sees reasons for it; a neurotic can be suspicious all the time, regardless of the situation, whether he is aware of his condition or not. A normal person is able to discern the difference between sincere and insincere compliments; the neurotic does not differentiate between them or under any circumstances believes them. A normal person will feel angry if he senses unjustified deception; Any hint (even if he realizes that this is being done in his interests) is enough for a neurotic to get angry. A normal person may feel indecisive at times when faced with an important and difficult issue; a neurotic person is constantly indecisive. Rigidity, however, indicates the presence of neurosis when it deviates from cultural patterns... Likewise, the discrepancy between the potential capabilities of a given person and his actual achievements in life is caused only by external factors. But it may indicate the presence of neurosis: if, despite his talents and favorable external opportunities for their development, a person remains infertile; or, having everything to feel happy, he cannot enjoy it; or, having a brilliant appearance, a woman does not consider herself attractive. In other words, the neurotic stands in his own way. Leaving aside the picture of external manifestations and turning to the consideration of the driving forces involved in the generation of neuroses, one can discover one essentially important factor common to all neuroses. This is anxiety and the defenses that are built against it. No matter how intricate the structure of neurosis may be, anxiety is the motor that launches the neurotic process and maintains its course. The meaning of this statement will become clear in the following chapters, and therefore I will refrain from giving examples here. But even if we accept this thesis only preliminary, as a basic principle, it requires clarification. As presented, this statement is obviously too general. Anxiety and fear (let us use these terms interchangeably for a moment) are ubiquitous, and so are defenses against them. These reactions are not limited to humans. An animal, frightened by one or another danger, either launches a counterattack or runs away. We have exactly the same situation of fear and protection. For example, we are afraid of being killed by lightning and install a lightning rod on the roof, or we are afraid of the consequences of possible accidents and take out an insurance policy. Factors of fear and protection are also present. They are presented in various specific forms in each culture and can take on an institutionalized form, as in the case of wearing amulets as protection against fear of the evil eye, in the case of the observance of elaborate rituals protecting against fear of the dead, taboos regarding the danger of meeting a woman during menstrual cycle as protection from fear of the evil emanating from it. What then are the signs of neurotic fears and defenses that make them specifically neurotic?.. First. The living conditions in every culture give rise to certain fears... The neurotic, however, not only shares the fears common to all people in a given culture, but due to the conditions of his individual life, which are intertwined with the general conditions, he also experiences fears that are qualitatively or quantitatively different from the fears a certain cultural pattern. Second. To reflect the fears that exist in a given culture, in general there are certain methods of protection (such as taboos, rituals, customs). As a rule, these defenses represent a more expedient way of dealing with fears than the neurotic’s defenses constructed in a different way. Thus, a normal person, although characterized by the fears and defenses of his culture, will generally be quite capable of realizing his potentialities and enjoying the pleasures that life has to offer him. A normal person can make the best use of the opportunities available in his culture. If we put it in terms of denial, then he suffers no more than is inevitable in his culture. The neurotic, on the other hand, always suffers more than the normal person. He invariably has to pay an excessive price for his defenses, namely, the weakening of his vital energy and capacity, or, especially, the weakening of his capacity for achievement and pleasure as a result of the difference I have indicated. In reality, a neurotic is a constantly suffering person. The only reason why I did not mention this fact when I discussed the signs of all neuroses that can be gleaned from superficial observation is that this fact is not always observable from the outside. Even the neurotic himself may not realize that he is suffering. There is another essential sign of neurosis, and it lies in the presence of a conflict of contradictory tendencies, the existence of which, or at least their exact content, the neurotic himself is not aware of and in relation to which he involuntarily tries to find certain compromise solutions. It is this latter feature that Freud emphasized in various forms as an essential component of neuroses. The difference between neurotic conflicts and the conflicts commonly encountered in a given culture lies not in their content and not in the fact that they are basically unconscious - in both of these cases they may be identical to the commonly occurring conflicts in a given culture - but in the fact that they neuroticism conflicts are more pronounced and more acute. A neurotic strives for and comes to compromise solutions - not by chance called neurotic - and these solutions are less satisfactory than the decisions of a normal person, and are achieved at a high cost for the personality as a whole. Having expressed all these considerations, we are not yet able to give a well-founded definition of neurosis here, but we can approach its description: neurosis is a mental disorder caused by fears and defenses against them, as well as attempts to find compromise solutions to the conflict of multidirectional tendencies. For practical reasons, it is advisable to call this disorder a neurosis only when it deviates from the generally accepted pattern in a given culture.

How can you recognize this type of people?

We have already listed the symptoms and characteristics. To find them in yourself, you should understand the reason for frequent mood swings and self-doubt, and admit your fears. Visit my consultation and I will help you understand yourself, find internal tensions and solve them.

It is much easier to see the signs in your colleague, girlfriend, or spouse. Analyze the behavior, notice that there is no middle ground between the two extremes to which a person constantly falls.

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Neurosis in children

Neurotic habits are cultivated by parents and educators in childhood. Many agreed that the majority of psychological problems arise in childhood. How? Here's an example:

A two-year-old runs through puddles with an absolutely satisfied face. Instead of explaining that the shoes will get wet, and then the feet will become wet and cold, which is why the baby can freeze and get sick, the mother simply says in a dissatisfied voice, “Well, what are you doing.” Thus, the child does not develop cause-and-effect relationships, but only becomes aware that he is wrong. With age, he will only cultivate these traits in himself. Analyze the favorite phrases of mothers and educators: “How are you dressed!”, “What are you saying.” And if “training” is accompanied by physical punishment or loud screaming, then constant fear is added to dissatisfaction with oneself and uncertainty.

Therefore, let’s say this: the neurotic type is not a congenital “diagnosis”, but an acquired one. It does not appear at one, two, or three years, but sometimes has its first manifestations at 5-6 years. Why it is so important to behave correctly with children, I will tell you below using examples of what can happen to him in adulthood.

What is neurotic anxiety?

One of the most painful problems that a neurotic person faces every day is anxiety. Symptoms may be similar to or caused by neurotic anxiety.

Living in fear, insecurity, isolation and frustration leads to isolation. Attempts to overcome fear are usually burdened by the accumulation and chaos of thoughts that interfere with rational thinking. This, in turn, can cause you to get caught up in even more negative thoughts and become even more isolated.

Neuroticism may arise from or be directly caused by anxiety. In extreme situations, anxiety can completely dominate and control life, preventing normal functioning.

Problems at work

The most common include:

• They do not change profession or company, even if they experience constant dissatisfaction with the place.
• Fear of being fired.
• They are afraid of making a mistake.
• Suspiciousness can lead to the point that he thinks about a conspiracy of his colleagues against him - around intrigue, gossip, prying.
• It is difficult to achieve professional success because of the fear of taking a new step.

In rare cases, neuroticism results in leadership, but a leadership position does not bring positive emotions or pride, but only the fear of losing it and the desire to do more.

Clinical picture

A person suffering from neuroticism is characterized by excessive and sometimes inappropriate anxiety. An example is a situation where a person, having left the house and checked all the appliances, taps, switches, etc., is still worried about whether he forgot to turn off the lights, iron, turn off the tap or lock the front door. In addition, such a person may be afraid of public places, or rather of glances directed at him; he may feel that he is dressed inappropriately or carelessly.

Neurotics often develop complexes, due to thoughts of sexual inferiority, they constantly suspect their spouse of infidelity.

Anxiety can also be caused by thoughts about financial difficulties that actually do not exist. Sometimes such people build criteria that the people around them and themselves must meet, and if the requirements turn out to be too high, this depresses them and makes them worry. Your own health is another reason for constant worry.

A neurotic is a person suffering from a psychological disorder - neuroticism

A neurotic person is constantly in a restless state; he is afraid and anxious even when everything is going quite well. A person with neuroticism becomes very vulnerable, chronically anxious and painfully competitive in relationships with other people. The life of a neurotic is a continuous series of problematic situations despite external well-being . This condition can be characterized in these words: it is very bad for the neurotic himself, but even worse for the people around him.

Treatment of a neurotic

I recommend:

• Increase your self-esteem.
• Find your favorite activity.
• Reconsider your environment.
• Communicate more.
• Interact with nature more often.

I will describe some points.

Look at the people

There are a lot of personalities around. Some are more successful, others less. Mentally find their weaknesses, understand that they also have fears. They are no better than you.

Communicate

Don't isolate yourself. You are an interesting person with your own hobbies and interests. But don’t forget to be interested in the life of your interlocutor.

Be more in nature

Find a pleasant hobby - run in the morning, go to the pond on weekends, have picnics, or ski in the forest in winter. Constant communication with animals will also have a positive effect. If not equestrian sport, then a pet. By the way, having a dog will force you to communicate with dog lovers in a relaxed atmosphere and go outside at least 2 times a day.