How to communicate with a man: rules of psychological relationships

A week ago, my friend and I went to a course for women “How to communicate with a man.” I'm still impressed and can't help but share it with you. Of course, the topic of relationships is not new - at all times, men and women have tried to gain the attention of the opposite sex. All imaginable tricks and secrets of seduction, love magic and the art of flirting were used. In the east, girls were taught from childhood how to get a man’s attention and please him so that he would forget to think about anyone else. Since psychology appeared, the study of gender relations has not stopped and interest in the topic has not subsided.

So how can you understand a man? How to arouse interest and remain remembered as an exceptional woman?

Features of men's perception of the world

Dear ladies!

Men are not aliens, as they sometimes write in books. They're just different. Their thinking and worldview are different from ours.

At all times, raising boys has focused on courage, dexterity, and the ability to be a leader and provider. Think rationally, make decisions and be responsible for them. Girls, on the other hand, have softer, more vulnerable, sensitive natures. Their tasks were to be a mother and housewife, to be able to manage everyday life and create comfort for their man after battles and exploits. And women perceive any event more subtly and emotionally. It is generally accepted that girls are cheerful and open, and men are unemotional and practical. Actually this is not true. “Legs grow” from centuries of experience in education. Here are a couple of simple examples that explain the way a man thinks: A woman will react emotionally to the simple phrase “the window broke” or “oh, I got hurt,” and a man will react rationally. It is important for the lady to sympathize; a picture has been scrolling in her head and she understands how painful it is to get hurt. A man's mind is different and is tuned to solving a problem.

Therefore, instead of “oh you, poor thing!” you will most likely hear: “Treat the wound, apply a tourniquet and go to the doctor immediately!” It's not insensitivity, it's caring.

A woman's thinking is more figurative.

It is easier for her to create new things, to fantasize, to be creative.

A man should always have a plan.

Therefore, it is easier for him to sketch rather than draw, to develop a ready-made idea than to come up with a new one. And one more thing: she always notices details, he focuses on the big picture. Hence the inability to find anything in the closet or refrigerator. In addition, a man’s awareness of himself in society and relationships is influenced by: Physiological characteristics The more a boy considers himself strong, athletic and “cool,” the more confident he is.

Details: men have less developed lateral vision. Therefore, he can spend a long time looking for keys or a pen that lies on the edge of the table, and not in the center.

1.1. Age

Agree, the values and criteria for choosing a girl at 18-20 and 30-40 years old are different for a young man. At the age of 20, a rare guy thinks about a serious relationship and pays more attention to bright, daring fashionistas. Closer to 30 years, when everything that one wanted to prove has been proven and conquered, a man begins to seek attention and understanding of himself as an individual. Comfort and peace in relationships.

1.2. Upbringing

What kind of upbringing a boy received in childhood and what example of treatment of women he saw in the family will largely determine his behavior with the opposite sex in the future. And it will even influence the choice of the type of partner. But more on that later. If he is the only long-awaited child in the family, if all the whims were fulfilled at the first dissatisfied grimace, and there was always a round dance of grandmothers and nannies around, then such a boy will grow up to be a “narcissist” - capricious, selfish, helpless and even cruel.

And from future women he will expect the same treatment as he received in the family.

In this case, you will have to learn how to communicate with a narcissistic man. Or leave it.

1.2. Nationality

Yes, yes, this is an important factor. The culture in which your chosen one grew up and was brought up, what traditions are embedded in his head, will also influence his manner of communication and treatment of women.

For example, how to communicate correctly with an Eastern man?

He will shower compliments and compare girls' eyes to stars in conversation, and this is normal for them. But he will never tolerate a raised tone in his direction. Therefore, to convince him you will need all the gentleness, wisdom and feminine cunning. And in Latin America they will approve if a girl is the first to take the initiative when meeting someone.

How to communicate to make him fall in love

As mentioned at the beginning of the article, you need to be able to show care. Now we have reached the main secret. Examples of “correct” care that will blow the minds of any man:

After waiting for your food in the cafe, place a napkin near your plate. Both for myself and for him. This should be done in conversation so as not to draw attention to the action, but to reinforce in his mind that you are an irreplaceable miracle that creates comfort.
Teach him to say good morning and good night every day. Even if it's only on your part. And after a couple of weeks, “forget” about the ritual. He will feel an acute lack of you and will understand that you have already become dear to him.
Allow him to show masculinity - pause in front of closed doors, wait for him to pour you wine. Not demonstratively, it should look natural, because you can’t imagine how it could be any other way, right?

What kind of women do men love?

Before you start communicating with a man, you need to understand what kind of women they like.

I’ll tell you a secret - a man falls in love not so much with the person herself, but with the state that he experiences next to her: comfort, peace, joy.

It’s easy for him, he’s not afraid of being misunderstood, he feels big and strong. You don't need to be perfect - just perceive him as a person, and not an object of conquest.

And yet, which girl will be of increased interest?

2.1. By external signs

Stylish

Not necessarily dressed in the latest fashion in branded items. You can look expensive even in simple clothes, well-chosen in style and color combination. Acid, tacky, animalistic and aggressive prints should not be in your wardrobe if you plan to stay in a man’s life for more than one night. Clothes should be understandable (otherwise they are intimidating) and give free rein to imagination.

With a pleasant voice

In any conversation, avoid high-pitched, shrill notes and croaking sounds.

90% of men are more sympathetic to the owners of a deep “velvety” voice with a hoarseness.

This timbre instills in them a sense of peace and security, and also excites the imagination and sensuality. High “girly” voices attract those who are subconsciously ready to “adopt” and who do not tolerate equality. Such a man will show care and attention in return for complete submission.

Self-sufficient woman

Before you learn to communicate with men, you need to be able to become interesting to yourself.

Real men love busy, inspired, developing women who have a hobby or business that makes their eyes sparkle.

This is a sign that the lady is a self-sufficient, integral person, that you won’t be bored with her, she doesn’t focus only on relationships and is capable of inspiring. It’s always interesting with something like this, you always have to conquer it.

Able to handle children and animals

2.2. By type

In addition to general data, there are also certain types that attract men:

Catwoman

Soft, flirty, charming. Either he cuddles and purrs, then he disappears for two weeks. Unpredictable, independent, tenacious. You'll never guess what's on her mind. A little lazy, because she is experienced and knows how to properly communicate with men and their psychology. This type is “fallen” by people who are not very confident in themselves, who need approval and the awareness that he is “good”.

Frank bitch

A godsend for macho men who love rollercoasters in relationships. Adrenaline, excitement and risk.

Such a woman is beautiful, knows her worth, is prudent and perceives a man as a resource.

This is the type that is most often found among lovers.

Woman girl

No matter how old she is, she always wants to help. Shelter, protect, warm. Next to her you feel like a real hero, a male. Friendly, sensitive, naive. It’s easy to cheat someone like this in the store, but she’ll easily forget about it when she gets a new dress.

Successful marriages usually develop with such women, because “girls” are responsible housewives.

There is also a vamp woman, a boss woman, a lady and a gray mouse. There is an amateur for each of them, depending on the psychological state and self-esteem.

How to react if a man himself starts talking about children and marriage?

What to do if a man is interested in such topics? Laugh it off? Ignore? In no case. The representative of the stronger sex did not just start asking questions; the woman’s attitude to the topics of family and marriage is important to him.

But his curiosity is of a general nature; with his questions he does not call you down the aisle and does not invite you to start arranging the nursery. There is no need to describe your love for children and talk about your passionate desire to have them. Suffice it to say that sometimes such thoughts come to mind, but when and how exactly they will come true is a question. With this turn of the conversation, the man’s hunting passion will be stimulated, and not suppressed.

However, you need to understand that communication between a woman and a man does not have clear rules, patterns or stereotypes. If you have an intuitive feeling that something should be said or done, there is no need to suppress it just because psychologists do not recommend doing so.

How to meet the man you like

My dears, in order to get to know any person, you need one thing: approach him and get to know him. But, if you don’t have enough courage, your palms are sweating, and your mother’s words come to mind that “the boy should go first,” then there are several clear ways to let a man know that you are not against dating.

1. Nonverbal communication

Or body language that signals your interest. Your gait, head tilt, special smile can say a lot. Straighten your hair, smile, roll your eyes, like in the movie “The Bat.”

A woman tinting her lips looks seductive. Just don’t overdo it here!

Open gestures, relaxed postures and natural behavior endear you and make it clear that the initiative to get to know you is desirable for you and safe for him.

2. Little tricks

Marilyn Monroe had her heels filed to make her walk more seductive. Coco Chanel wore men's trousers.

What's stopping you from doing a little prank to meet possible love?

Drop your purse, “accidentally” collide, trip, spill coffee on him or yourself (just make sure it’s not too hot).

3. Send a message

If this happens in a public place: a restaurant, a party, and you are worried that noise may interfere, write a short note and pass it along to the waiter.

Yes, it's bold, but what do you have to lose?

In the worst case, they simply won’t answer you and you’ll never see each other again. And at best, you will make an interesting acquaintance.

3.1. How to understand that a man is interested

When a woman imagines an ideal meeting in her head, she often assumes that her partner will behave boldly, confidently and relaxed. In fact, if a man is interested in communicating with you, he will worry about falling in your eyes. If he really likes you, you will quickly realize it.

By the way he:

— Shows special attention, strives to show oneself from the best side;
- Wants to impress in any way: do 50 push-ups without hands or tell an exciting story about how he walked on a bear;
— He will try to treat you, see you off, and ensure your safety;
— Will take your contacts to continue communication;
- There will be a lot of jokes.

3.2. How to behave at the first meeting and what to talk about

Fact: for a man to feel “kinship of souls” and sincere sympathy, it takes 100 hours. 100 hours for him to speak out. Therefore, do not rush to lay out everything about yourself - be patient, ask interesting questions, and listen and listen. It is a good experience to understand how “your” person he is.

Until you know each other too well, choose neutral topics so as not to hurt anyone's feelings.

You can navigate the place and see how it goes. But the best improvisation is a prepared improvisation. Therefore, here are a few topics on how to communicate with a man to interest him:

- About him. Give the man the freedom to speak, while showing sincere interest and nodding approvingly;
— New movies, premieres, music. Who likes what, who went where. Often such a topic can end with a proposal to go to a movie or a concert together;
- Sports. There is no man who does not love some kind of sport. Even if you don’t understand it at all and are far from this topic, ask him to explain.

And don't be afraid to look awkward.

The gentleman will be flattered by both your interest and the opportunity to share knowledge and once again show off your erudition;

But it’s better not to touch on the topic of politics, finance, your problems, cosmetics, so as not to be misunderstood.

During the conversation, remember about body language, open postures, and a “live” voice. Be positive.

Trick: You can make a man feel that you are on the same wavelength and understand him by mirroring his movements. He bowed his head and so did you. He crossed his arms - repeat after him.

Rule 8: Speak directly, without hints

Yes, do not forget that men do not take hints , and if you really need to ask them for something or provide information that you consider extremely important, do it directly, without roundaboutness.
If you wait for him to understand everything by your meaningful look or to figure out what to do himself, then you can wait like this all your life.

By the way, if we are talking about a request, then men really like to be useful, to feel needed, so do not be afraid to ask them for specific help, but, of course, without fanaticism.

How to behave with different men

If there are female types, then there are also male ones.

How to find out which of them your partner belongs to, how to behave with him and what to expect?

4.1. How to communicate with an introverted man

An introverted man prefers a calm, solitary atmosphere. He is used to thinking a lot, being silent a lot, and needs to be alone to recuperate. He doesn’t have many friends, you won’t meet him in noisy parties, and he often gives the impression of a boring nerd.

In fact, introverts are smart, well-read and reliable people, successful careerists and loyal friends.

But charming an introverted man is useless. He makes his own choice according to criteria that only he understands. It’s another matter when he wasn’t an introvert, but became one. For example, as a child, an inquisitive, active boy ran to share the news with his mother, and she answered: “Don’t interfere!”, “Go and play alone!” So the child learned to study on his own and avoid society, considering himself unnecessary.

4.2. How to communicate with a divorced man

A divorced man is like a soldier who fought - he was already in a serious relationship, he was hit by shells, you can’t fool him. This is an experienced, attentive, seasoned warrior. And if the divorce was painful, then he is often distrustful and offended by the entire female half of humanity. You can often hear him say that getting married is no longer a no-no.

You can melt the heart of a divorced man only with patience and affection. No pressure or criticism.

4.3. How to communicate with an egoistic man

It is useless to re-educate an egoist. He will only be offended that you do not accept him for who he is and “nag.” There are several solutions: - Show by personal example how to do it. Most likely, your chosen one was the only son and all the attention and gifts were only for him. He can be a kind person and not even notice such a feature in himself; - Start behaving the same way. The method is aggressive and can lead to conflicts; - Stop communication. The most nerve-saving option. But, if you don’t want to leave, see point 1.

4.4. How to communicate with a manipulative man

There is no need to communicate with a manipulator!

Unless absolutely necessary. For example, he is your boss. But even here, keep conversations to a minimum. With such a man you will feel guilty. He will always find a way to get his way, reinforcing the story that it is for your own good. He is one of those who states that in a relationship it is important to listen to each other and make compromises. In particularly unhealthy cases, such a man will threaten to harm himself if you don't do what he wants. This is not a matured, childish, capricious person who believes that everything revolves around him. You need to run away from such relationships early and far away. Of course, if this is not your comfort zone.

Our women love to save everyone, have compassion, and also blame themselves.

And don’t worry - he won’t do anything to himself. The love for one’s own person is too strong.

How to stay interesting

To do this, you should regularly expand your horizons, show interest in new events and people around you.

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You can become a fascinating conversationalist if you have a hobby. A passionate girl will always share positive emotions and amazing facts.

Please note that feminine themes are unlikely to interest your gentleman. He will be bored hearing about outfits, celebrity romances or gossip.

However, tips on how to communicate with a guy are only general recommendations, since each case is individual. The only thing you definitely need to follow is to preserve your own identity. In the process of interaction, gentlemen are attracted to bright individuals from whom they can learn new things.

Dating by correspondence: rules of flirting on the Internet

60% of married couples met on the Internet. Online dating sites make the task of finding a partner much easier.

Advantages of online dating:

— You risk relatively nothing except wasting time;
— You can correspond on the Internet in comfortable pajamas and with tea, while feeling beautiful and seductive;
— Virtual communication gives a feeling of permissiveness and courage;
— There is a chance to meet foreigners.

There are also disadvantages:

- You can never be sure who is really hiding behind the avatar;
— You and your interlocutor can embellish the photo and biography at your discretion;
- A man may turn out to be a fraudster or simply married;
— A person may unexpectedly interrupt the conversation and not allow you to explain.

5.1. Rules for communicating with a man in correspondence

How to communicate with a man in correspondence, where to start a conversation, should you write first?

Virtual communication differs from ordinary communication in that the opponent does not hear your voice, intonation, or see the reaction to his words. Try to answer as clearly as possible, without ambiguity (unless this is part of the game). When you see a new letter, do not rush to open it immediately. Show your interlocutor that you weren’t waiting at the computer all day. Writing first is acceptable and normal. The ratio is 1 your message to 5 his.

Ask questions that a man cannot answer in monosyllables.

Develop topics that interest him. The 100 hour rule applies here too. It is quite possible that after several evenings at the keyboard you will be asked to switch to a dialogue on the phone. If this does not happen, show your interlocutor that you do not see any prospects and cut down communication, let him get bored. Remember that communicating on VK is not the same as communicating on Tinder. A man may need different types of attention from you.

5.2. Telephone communication

There are a million manuals, advice from specialists, psychologists and folk tricks on how to communicate with a man on the phone. The stronger sex does not like telephone conversations too much, preferring real communication.

Therefore, one of the rules of such conversations is not to talk to a man on the phone for more than 3-5 minutes.

So you win on three points at once:

— Don’t seem like an obsessive chatterbox;
— You remain mysterious;
- This makes it possible to see how much a fan is interested in you, because even in 3-5 minutes, having learned that you are “a little busy,” he will have time to invite you to a personal meeting.

A short telephone conversation will tell the gentleman that you have something to do, that you value time and do not use it for empty chatter.

How to learn to communicate with guys?

The ability to communicate with men is not an innate, but an acquired skill . With desire and some effort, every woman can master this art.

Psychology .
To better understand the nature and way of thinking of a man, it is necessary to study the basics of psychology on this topic. Then the guys’ reactions and actions will become predictable and understandable to you. And it will be possible to build communication tactics taking into account male psychology.
Observation . It is necessary to regularly observe how men behave before communication, during dialogue and after. How do they react to different words and statements? How effective are other women's strategies? You can watch colleagues, male relatives, friends, and even random strangers. It is thanks to analysis and independent conclusions that you can quickly “upgrade” your communication skills.
Practice .
Theoretical basis is useless without practice. You can again test strategies and theses on familiar men (colleagues, friends, brothers, etc.). It is important not only to constantly interact, but also to try to reach a new high-quality level of communication. Indicators of success will be the favor of men, recognition of your competence in various issues, interest in dialogue and initiative in providing assistance.

How to keep a man interested

It is not so difficult to take a man captive as to then feed him in captivity for the rest of his life.

Having received the desired attention, it is not enough to think that he is now yours forever. A man by nature is a hunter. Now imagine that this hunter came into the forest, and a beautiful young fox runs out to meet him and begins to rub against his legs - “well, kill me, please, hunter!” Such behavior will cause him bewilderment, fear and thoughts that the fox is mad, it is better not to mess with it. Therefore, maintain the idea that you need to be constantly conquered. But then don’t stand aside - take care, show attention, praise. Let him feel that you can’t do anything without a man’s help: the bags are heavy, the light bulb burns out, and opening jars is a real hell.

Tell him more often how smart you are, how lucky he is to have you.

As a joke, of course. Over time, the source from which the information came will be forgotten, and the confidence that you are the best will remain in the background. Compliment your man. And don't be afraid of being misunderstood or overdoing it. They love to listen to pleasant things and, if they notice outright flattery, they will not point it out. Surprise and pamper your hero. A note in his pocket, his favorite dish, a massage, various pleasant little things. If you are not interested in a man’s life, he becomes withdrawn and ultimately indifferent. Don't wear your pride like a crown, participate in your partner's life and you will be happy.

Is it easy to be like everyone else?

What if you try to be like everyone else? Will this bring us closer to becoming a lightweight person? For communication, for relationships. Here you can look at it from both sides - both from the side of uniqueness and from the side of the desire not to stand out.

That is, on the one hand, when you are too unique, unlike others, you behave very strangely and incomprehensible to people. Of course, you won’t be an easy person for them. They simply will not understand you due to their own limitations.

Because people - they tend to try to compare other people's experiences with their own. See how close and understandable someone else’s experience is to them. And it will be understandable and close to them if they have experienced this themselves. And the closer and clearer your experience is, and, accordingly, your behavior and external attributes, the easier it will be for people to find a common language with you. And the easier it will be for them.

How not to behave with a man

There are a number of rules that are unacceptable for a lady in communicating with a man. They act like a red rag to a bull and work against you.

7.1. Claim that he owes you

No one owes nothing to nobody. Everything should happen “out of love.” Giving is for love, spending is for love. Another person cannot owe you anything. This is a violation of personal boundaries and his birthright freedom. If he wants, he will do everything himself. Thinking like that is new and scary, I understand. And this does not at all fit into the traditional opinion, where a man is a priori obliged, because he is strong. Remember what advice Woland gave to Margarita: “Never ask for anything!.. They will offer it themselves and give everything themselves!”

7.2. Let him be the first

He’ll come up, call, do it. This is how the conservative attitude “I’m a girl” emanates.

Sometimes taking initiative is good and healthy

. A man is a simple person who cannot read your thoughts. Therefore, if you wait and sulk, without making it clear what you want, you risk not getting it.

7.3. Criticize, hysteria, ignore his wishes

Even if you don't like something, there are different ways to communicate it. One of the rules of dispute: first find something to praise and agree with, then make a claim. Do not under any circumstances insult a person (anyone) in a quarrel.

When solving a problem, talk about the problem without getting personal.

Respect your man's wishes. He has the right not to go to the theater or visit your friend if he doesn’t want to. Just like you have the right not to go fishing with him if you don’t like it. Violence against yourself does not strengthen relationships. It creates the conditions for a victim position, grievances and subsequent reproaches.

7.4. Forget about yourself, adapt, expect gratitude

Remain a whole person in any relationship.

Don't lose yourself in your partner, don't try to become more comfortable or sacrificial.

Don't expect him to appreciate it and understand what gold he got. In 99% of cases, he won’t appreciate it.

Therefore, give what you want to give, take care according to your capabilities and your understanding. Otherwise, one day it will lead to that same phrase about the best years of your life.

7.5. Hint and take offense

If you want something, say it directly. This will save time and nerve cells. His and yours. Due to their thinking, men do not understand hints.

The phrase that you are out of perfume is just information. But the phrase - that you need new perfume - is a call to action.

The way to solve the problem.

What is a light person?

If you take an easy person as a whole and consider what he is like. So, here you can also highlight key characteristics and list them.

1. Acceptance of yourself with your feelings, emotions, appearance

2. Acceptance of life events. Although this does not strike the eye as having a very expensive car, which is immediately visible.

A person who accepts his life, as they say, does not argue with it. And accepts reality as it is.

Why? Because when a person does not accept reality, he is filled with resentment and irritation. It seems to him that everything should be different. People need to behave differently. Events should happen differently. People close to you should treat you differently. And, accordingly, if this is not so, then the person becomes very heavy. He is like a vessel with negativity. And, of course, it is very difficult to communicate with such a person.

In the language of psychology, such a person is called a Victim, or the opposite - Tyrant, Abuser. In the language of esotericism, such a person is called a vampire. In especially severe cases, in the language of psychiatry - a psychopath. And the psychiatrist would have found that he had mental disorders.

Whatever you call it, inside such a person there is always acute dissatisfaction with what is happening. And he is very difficult in relationships. And it's not just heavy - it can destroy almost anyone with whom it comes into close contact. Therefore, the opposite of him is an easy person. This is the one who, either from childhood, can accept reality as it is. Or, he simply learned not to argue with life.

As in the joke about Master Shifu:
Panda came to master Shifu and asked:
Master Shifu, how do you manage to get a lot done and be optimistic about everything?
“And I just don’t argue with anyone.”
- But this is impossible!
- Well, it’s impossible, it’s so impossible...

3. In addition, he is an easy-going person - he is easy-going.

The topic of communication in psychology

At the moment of acquaintance, men first of all pay attention to appearance. But a beautiful outfit and spectacular makeup are just a clue. The further development of the relationship directly depends on how the girl communicates.

Communication in psychology is a way of transmitting information. Minimum skills are developed in childhood. However, they are not enough to solve various kinds of problems, in particular: to arouse the interest of a partner, to win over the man whom you like. Therefore, in order to communicate correctly, it is necessary to regularly develop and improve skills by applying them in practice.

The main rule that should be followed regardless of the circumstances is the proper distribution of roles. A woman is support, a man is a conqueror. Even if a girl makes the first step, she just has to reveal herself and express her attitude towards the guy she likes. The palm remains with the man. After all, leadership is his main instinct.

The conversation should be conducted casually, without any hint of an attempt to take a dominant position. Intrusive communication is unacceptable; it will cause irritation on the part of the young man and provoke a negative reaction. A guy may get an unpleasant impression of a woman. For example, he may think that the girl is poorly educated, accessible, or wants to control everything herself.

Communication is a great way to understand another person, express your own emotions and feelings, and explain your desires. Being on the same wavelength with a man you like means arousing and maintaining interest for a long time.

A few myths about communicating with men

Myth 1

The main thing is to ask. No, the main thing is to ask correctly. Avoid statements such as “Could you...”. So you are preparing his answer on a subconscious level, starting with denial.

Myth 2

Men love cute, silly girls. No. Men simply don’t like people who are too smart and make them look like fools.

Myth 3

There is no need to thank him, because this is his duty. In fact, it is necessary. Because by thanking him for taking out the trash, you will awaken the hero in him. And the calling of a hero is to always perform noble deeds.

Basic ways to keep a man hooked

Only a few young ladies know such ways of communicating with a guy so that he always has a sincere interest. Such people date a guy for a long time, but their relationship is always positive and exciting.

Always be attractive

Attractive appearance is half the success, so always be fully prepared. Things like:

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a neat manicure and pedicure, especially if you are wearing sandals;
beautifully styled hair, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s a ponytail or loose curls;
light daytime or evening makeup (depending on the time of day);
clean, neat, not too revealing clothes;
pleasant smell of perfume.

If it’s unpleasant to look at you, you reek of tobacco smoke or smell of sweat, your blouse is stained, and your skirt is indecently short, then no matter how interesting an interlocutor you are, a man will not talk to you for a long time. He will have something to do and will quickly retreat.

Don't reveal all your cards

You can definitely give yourself a bad mark if on the first day you tell him how much you liked him and you want three wonderful daughters from him. There is no need to let the guy know that he has aroused genuine interest, and your heart beats wildly when you are nearby. Remember that a man is a predator, so when a timid doe goes into his arms, she becomes uninteresting. Be mysterious and a little distant until the young man begins to openly express sympathy.

Intrigue

A man is attracted to mysterious and unpredictable ladies who excite the mind with their behavior. I want to recognize and conquer them. To intrigue the gentleman you like, communication with the guy should be accompanied by the following actions on your part:

Eye contact. Shows interest and sympathy.
Listen carefully, pay attention to details, ask again if something is unclear or you missed something, remember. It would be good if you could insert his phrases into your dialogue in the future.
If you don’t understand how to arouse interest on his part, then be inaccessible, that is, unobtrusive, a little distant. But dropping calls and not showing up for a date is unnecessary, because the man will quickly lose interest in the impregnable fortress.
Don't talk incessantly. When the interlocutor cannot get a word in edgewise, it is called a monologue. So talk to yourself at home.
Don't show real emotions.
Have an exciting hobby that might interest your interlocutor. Few people will be intrigued by a girl who spends all her evenings staring at her phone.

Don't worry if you don't know a single way to effectively communicate with the opposite sex. Keep the intrigue, then they will be drawn to you.

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Know how to listen to a man

Although it is believed that women love to talk, men are not inferior to them in this desire. There is only one thing that distinguishes them: girls for the most part talk about distant topics, and men talk about things that concern them. It is important for them to express their opinions, guesses, or simply retell information that interests them. If he finds an excellent listener in you, then you will no longer have to look for special ways to please him. He himself will run to you with another conversation.

Give a feeling of need

Guys like to be needed and useful, so another life hack is to create a strong feeling of his need in your life. For example, ask to tell and show how to properly check the oil level in a car. Just choose topics that the man understands, otherwise he will feel awkward and an unpleasant situation will arise.

The table will tell you what you can and cannot say.

What interests men in communicating with girls?

From the very beginning, communication should take place in a pleasant and natural atmosphere. Only if the first conversation turned out to be easy, interesting, and relaxed, will the guy want to see you again. If you structure the dialogue correctly, and the questions are aimed at getting to know your interlocutor better, you will be able to quickly find common ground, and therefore topics that are fascinating for both.

If you don’t know what to talk about at the beginning of dating, then try to find common interests. A guy can talk about his hobby for hours; this is one of his favorite topics. If you also understand this, are interested in it, or just dream of trying, then you can develop the dialogue in such a way that the next day you will be given a first date in the form of watching a movie in the cinema that you both dream of going to, or going for a morning jog together.

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What to talk about with a guy and how to choose an interesting topic for conversation

Men also like to talk about girls, sex, cars, computer games and other purely masculine topics, but they prefer to discuss this with friends. But if you know, for example, about stamps, then why not show it to the guy who showed off his collection.

Developing the topic of hobbies, you can talk about cinema, favorite music or performers, literature, travel, sports. If you do not share the interests of the young man at all, then ask him to explain or tell him what he knows. Men love to feel useful.

Main mistakes

One of the most common mistakes women make is to notice a flaw and put a tick in the “change” box. And then be disappointed that he is not what you would like him to be. The only thing you can do is easily push for this change. A relationship with a married man, a narcissist, a manipulator or a tyrant means tying a noose around your own neck. However, if you have already chosen such a person to be your partner, either tolerate it or break up, but do not waste your time trying to change him.

Men appreciate a sense of humor in their chosen one. But some people abuse this skill too much, teasing their loved one, especially in the presence of someone else. You don't want to be disappointed in you, do you?

And further. Girls tend to complain. And it often happens that we do this without thinking, out of habit. To those who care about us. Having freed our soul, we forget about the conversation, but the interlocutor gets it in her head that this stump offended you. But it’s the retinue that makes the king, so don’t spoil the impression of either him or yourself...

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